Adunke Olatunji
By Adunke Olatunji
WHEN we have dreams, we have a passion. When we have a passion, we want to do it with perfection. Often, when we have some goals, we want to start it with a blast. We want to become an overnight star. We want to achieve best as soon as possible.
We all have different perspective about life. Some of us see positive aspects of whatever happens. While some keep blaming that life is hard. While some sees the beauty of the garden, some sees dry leaf and waste scattered along the way. While some of us change the circumstances around them and some change themselves as per circumstances.
Actually, the outer world is merely a reflection of our inner world. How you feel is how you see the world. We see life not as it is but as we are.
If you are stable internally, nothing in the outer world can shake you. If you are happy internally, events outside cannot affect you. However, if your happiness depends merely on external environment and people, you will struggle for lasting happiness.
Some people play the game of their life as per their own rules while some simply respond to the surroundings. Remember: No matter how hard the circumstances are, you have the power to override them. Your circumstances are powerless without your power.
Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.
Why do we become a slave of circumstances sometimes? We feel like victim when things go out of our control. God will not give you problem as beyond your capacity, you know. Next time when a challenge appears in your life, think yourself more powerful than the problem.
As Charles F. Lummis said: “I am bigger than anything that can happen to me.”
Difficulties in life exist to make us strong. Once you know this art of life, you can deal with any challenge. Once you go through difficulties, you become a different person. Learn to learn from trouble and let it go.
Everyone has different nature in the world. What makes a person character as it is? Circumstances? No. You must have seen people with different set of attitudes in the same conditions. What makes one different from others is their way of thinking and the way of thinking creates different way of life.
Are you aware of the power of thoughts? Thoughts make all the difference in the personality. They can be destructive and constructive. Based on these thoughts we react or respond to the situations in life. And, depending on the qualities of thoughts our life turn up or down.
We are product of our thinking and line of thought. All that we are, arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.” – Soren Kierkegaard
The good news is, we can choose our thoughts and so the quality of our life. Once you become aware of the facts that you can take control of your mind, you can control your life. You can live a life of your purpose.
You cannot always control your mind forcefully. Treat it like a child. As you deal with a child with love and compassion, do it with your mind. Meditation can help in a great way.
Beliefs are formed over the time since we were born. Once we form a belief, we filter each of the information based on those beliefs. We rarely questions our beliefs. What we believe is more important to us than what we see.
If you have self-limiting beliefs, you will keep underestimating yourself. The only thing that can break your pattern is to doubt your self-limiting beliefs. Our beliefs shape our life. However, if you believe that you cannot do something, you would not able to do it.
Most of the decisions we take are unconsciously taken based on these beliefs. Therefore, if you have strong beliefs that you can do something, you will take positive actions towards achieving that goal. If you have doubt that you cannot do it, you will tend to avoid it by making excuses.
Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.
Our beliefs are simply based on references and experiences of ourselves and other persons. We can find references to support or oppose our beliefs. It is essential to focus on the references or experiences to support the belief that you can do it.
Create a Life you want.
Many of us just pass their life waiting for weekends and holidays. Why do not we seize every day? Why do not we live every day?
Do you have a sense of satisfaction and joy all day? Are you living a life you want? If not, it is time to take control of your life.
You are born to live life your way. Your thoughts create your life. It is the time to nourish your thoughts. It is time to overcome the beliefs that are limiting you.
Do not wait anymore. Take a step ahead. Do it now. You dream life is waiting you.
Adunke Olatunji, Managing Partner, Bamy-Rem Consulting